Frum Dating and Marriage — Marcia Naomi Berger, MSW, LCSW
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This is not to say that sometimes people are genuinely non compatible and should seek counselling. Divorce should be a last resort and not a quick exit strategy as it is today. For the most part, most people are not better off after a divorce unless there was physical or emotional abuse taking place.
I strongly believe that just as there are chosson and kallah classes, there shiuld be pre marital classes required for all engaged couples be they Litvish Chassidish YU type etc. We are all subject to the same knee jerk human behavior that has to be controlled when one gets married. They once asked this couple who were married 40 years as to whether either one ever contemplated divorce.
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The husband responded by saying: I have an issue with the way you are presenting this issue. See, I can jump to conclusions, too. March 14, 1: As far as the hishtadlus part that we do, It definately reccomended to spend more time with the prospective husband or wife before deciding to get engaged so you get a real feeling and understanding of who they are.
And to all those out there looking for ur spouce first timers or second, Hashem is the one you should be talking to, after all its all in his hands.
Frum Dating and Marriage
And even then it should be ascertained, and thought over and over, if it is at all avoidable. And that really is the bottom line.Divorce: Jewish Style (Marriage Documentary) - Real Stories
It is way over-utilized with destructive results. March 14, 2: But i hafta disagree. For sum reason I have more prospects now then my first time around. And regarding ur advice-dont worry. They will warn the girl that it will not be easy for her and she may never get remarried. A woman does not have it within her nature to go searching once shes already in a relationship. What other kind of convert would I be exactly? I've been most active on Frumster.
And when I say active, I mean it's that insane "click reply every two seconds" kind of active. As if magically out of the ether my bashert will both look at my profile and actually email me.
You see, I'm discovering that people do a lot of looking and very little interacting. Or maybe it's just me? Those taking a gander at me have ranged from 24 to mids, everything from divorced men to widows to guys with multiple kids that don't live with them which always makes me wonder what the story is.
I have a habit of finding a guy hilarious or interesting and sending a message. Most of the time, the bochur is kind enough to reply, but in that "I'm replying because I feel obligated so don't message me again" kind of way. No room for questions, no actually asking of questions.
I've met two of the three guys I seriously interacted with so far on Frumster.
The third was LA guy, and that didn't work out for reasons not worth divulging here yes, I honor and appreciate a bit of a private life! The other two guys I met while out vacationing in Chicago. One of the guys' sisters had recently been married, so I got to be there for some hardcore segula wine.
I drank it and prayed for my bashert to appear with a Houdini poof. I'm still waiting on that one. Both of the guys were really nice, but ultimately the friend vibe was stronger than the romantic vibe.
In retrospect, and at the advice of another bochur I met while there who jazzed me left and right suggested that the next time I schlep across country to meet a fella I ask him to chip in on the gas. Although, truth be told, the next interested guy better haul himself to me. Be a chivalrous white-horse toting gentleman, okay?
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On Saw You at Sinai, the story is a little different. You rely on shadchanim or matchmakers to do the kindly work for you. I'm okay with this because, well, it's easier when there's an intermediary.
It's something I actually love about the idea of shidduch dating. On the other hand, I haven't been successful. Of the six matches, I declined three of them with legit reasons, actually and two declined me. The other is "active," and I'm waiting with utter anticipation praying that perhaps something positive will come of it.