The Narcissist and the Empath: A Toxic Attraction | PairedLife
How do empaths get sucked into a relationships with a narcissist and what to do about it. Tips on why you fell for them, and how to break free. They suck energy out of empaths because they can't produce it Changing our behavior could signal the end of a narcissistic relationship. Both empaths and narcissist are buzz words that people seem to be using this may explain why an empath would get sucked into this type of relationship.
This is the nature of the relationship between the two and it will never change. But why is she attracted to him? In the beginning, the powerful "vibe" the Narcissist gives off will resonate very deeply within the Empath. It catches her attention, and she is drawn to him as magnetically as he is drawn to her because of it. His presence is often very emotionally intense and most Empaths are attracted to that, whether they realize it or not.
He may also be hard to read emotionally his vibe is intense but it may be very distorted, like static on a TV where one cannot see the true picture and since reading other people's emotional states is often very easy for the Empath to do, she may be drawn to him in spite of herself in an attempt to figure him out. Who is this guy? What's going on with him? In short order, he will reveal his lifetime of abuse real or embellished along with a carefully-crafted commercial pitch showcasing how wonderful he is usually not real - and how wonderful she is, even though he just met her - and she will be effectively snared because she does not realize at first that the intense emotionality she is reading from him has nothing to do with her.
It is all for himself. It would seem unlikely that the Empath would fall for this considering that she is very in tune with others' emotions and their true selves. Can't she see what he really is? The answer is yes, she can. Most Empaths sense something "wrong" about the Narcissist very quickly, sometimes during the first conversation.
But she can also see something else, and it overrides everything else: It's not an act on his part or a mistake on the Empath's part; the Narcissist really is fundamentally wounded and broken inside. A large number of Narcissists are skilled at appearing helpless and lost.
That's because in many ways, they truly are.
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Her mistake is in thinking she can help him. This is the attraction. She wants to help him. It is her fatal blind spot, because the Narcissist cannot be helped and more importantly, he does not want help. Yet even when she can see this clearly, his wounds are clearer.
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They are evident in everything he does, even in the horrible things. Especially in the horrible things. The Why He is adept at making her believe she is the only one who can help him, or that she already has helped him.
This is what she wants. It feeds her need to help, and no one is more convincing than the Narcissist when he is showering someone with praise or pushing their emotional buttons to get a response. She gives him the emotional sustenance he both wants and needs, allowing him to bask in the light of her care and attention all the time. It is a dangerously codependent relationship which revolves around superficially fulfilling the needs of only one person who can be neither satisfied nor happy.
Empaths will believe they can fix the narcissist and all of their problems. They tend to see good in everyone and it is no different with a narcissist. The narcissist will fall hard and fast for the empath but that is short lived because the narcissist gets bored very easily and fast. The narcissist will lie, cheat, and steal to get what they want. They run the empath into sheer exhaustion. No one can change the narcissist. The narcissist will suck all of the energy out of the empath. Empaths know what they need to do but their ability to execute the plan is difficult due to their caring nature.
More From Thought Catalog. This gullibility however admirable can be damaging to them because not everyone is honest and good as they are — and different people have different agendas. There can never be balance a between these two contrasting natures. If, however, they start a relationship, this relationship will soon become a vicious cycle that it will be almost impossible to get out. The more affection and love that the empath gives, the more in control the narcissist would feel, thus making the empath the victim.
The empath will soon become wounded and begin to feel like the victim that in turn may give them some narcissistic traits. When a narcissist sees that the empath is wounded, it may give them a sense of validation.
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Because the more unhappy the empath is — the happier the narcissist feels. The unhappy empath will then start seeking for feelings of love and support from the narcissist. At this point, the empath will focus solely on its feelings of pain and will seek for validation and love, failing to realize that they are not the one to blame for this — the damage is coming from the narcissist. It is essential for the empath to wake-up and realize this before they become self-absorbed and narcissist themselves; because the truth is, everyone who is deeply hurt is vulnerable to become a narcissist.
So, how can an empath stop the damage and put an end to this toxic relationship with a narcissist?