Relationships Happen: Starting over isn’t for everyone | The Sundial
With the arrival of spring is the desire to clean and renew things in our life. Your relationship shouldn't be left out of that. Relationships can be neglected from. Relationships are complicated and difficult, sometimes messy. The worst is when someone is asked to “start over.” But what exactly does that. Reflect on your feelings and talk with people about how you feel or what you are noticing about yourself, without expecting them to put you back together again.
What would happen if you decided to end the relationship and took advantage of the opportunity to intentionally and consciously create the kind of relationship you actually wanted to have with your already existing partner? What if you worked together to decide what do you want in your relationship?
What if you identified the values that you both hold near and dear and dedicated yourselves to living in alignment with them?
What if you consciously took steps to learn new tools and practice new skills? What if you rekindled your intimacy? What if you each or even just one of you took percent responsibility for how you showed up in the relationship?
- How to Start Over — Starting With You
- Ways To Build, Strengthen, and Enhance Your Relationship
- Relationships Happen: Starting over isn’t for everyone
This article courtesy of Spirituality and Health. In Real Love with Eve, she shares skills, principles, and tools for creating healthy, harmonious relationships—with friends, family, lovers, co-workers, and the world at large.
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Starting Over Advice for a Current Relationship
Whether married for thirty years or eight months, the outcome can be the same. The fact is that relationships, whether dating or married, are hard. Often when people break off a relationship, they feel as though something is missing. However, even though the odds are not very good, healthy, and long-lasting relationships are definitely possible and proven by many people.
What secrets do they possess?
Starting Over Advice for a Current Relationship | LoveToKnow
The answer is that they all work hard at their relationship. By making love a choice you are making a decision that even in the bad times, you stick it out. Think of it like choosing a car.
You pick out the make, model, year, color, and features that you believe are best for you. After driving your car for a couple of months, you realize that perhaps you should have purchased a larger car, or that maybe the leather seats would have been better, or on hot sunny days, the sunroof would have been nice.
However, it is now too late so you choose to keep your car and make it work. It is the same for marriage. Not everything will be perfect and there will be major obstacles to overcome but you have made your decision and now you choose to make it work. There are hundreds of things you can do to better your relationship.
To help get you headed in the right direction, I have chosen 5 ways to build, strengthen, and enhance your relationship.
I know first hand that it is extremely difficult to get back into the way that things were once the relationship has been broken and you have tried to move on. I was in a relationship that was on and off so often that is was difficult to actually be IN the relationship because I never knew if it was solid or not. Once I got comfortable again, I would start to worry about when it would end again. I could not help but think about the past and play those events over and over again in my mind.
I was still hurt from what had happened before we had broken up. There was no trust in the relationship and in order for a relationship to work, there has to be trust-from both sides. You both need to know it is not going to be so easy but if you want things the way they were, then both of you will be up to the challenge.